Growing Pains

Posted: February 4, 2015 by The Kentucky Gent

The Kentucky Gent, a men's fashion and lifestyle blogger, shares his growing pains as blogger.

21Men Beanie // Koto Sweater (similar here) // BDG T-Shirt // Levi’s Jeans // CAT Boots // Giles & Brother Cuff

As I begin to finalize my NYFW schedule – while simultaneously starting to freak out over having nothing to wear – I realized a couple of things. First off, I’ve came a long way in the past year, and lost some followers/friends in the process. Something that was made pretty evident to me this week as I lost Instagram follower after Instagram follower, and I’m not gonna lie – it frustrated me more than it probably should have.

Now don’t get me wrong; I’m not sitting by my phone constantly checking my follower count, but I do check it after I see a couple of new followers pop up in my notifications. Some days I gain more than others, but almost always I lose just as many (if not more.) This week I’ve definitely lost more followers than I’ve gained, and at first it made me wonder what I was doing wrongly. Then after a long run and hot shower a lightbulb went off. I’m not doing anything wrongly, and neither are the people who are unfollowing me. They followed me for one reason or another, but each and every day I’m fine tuning this little blog of mine, which includes my social media handles, and they may not like the direction The Kentucky Gent is taking. Honestly, I’m more than ok with that (even though at first I wasn’t.) As I’m sure you can tell of the past few weeks my content has shifted from strictly fashion focused to a more well-rounded lifestyle blog.

I realized at the beginning of the year that I wasn’t here to share fashion advice, or tell you why you should buy one shirt over the other; instead I wanted to share bits and pieces of my life, tell stories, and build a community of like minded folk. It seems like everyone in this day and age has a fashion blog, and while I love the fashion and clothing aspect of this blog the real reason I started it was to have a creative outlet where I could share my thoughts, feelings, and story. I got a little lost along the way, but this year is off to a great start – even with my fair share of growing pains.

The Kentucky Gent, a men's fashion and lifestyle blogger, shares his growing pains as blogger. The Kentucky Gent, a men's fashion and lifestyle blogger, shares his growing pains as blogger. The Kentucky Gent, a men's fashion and lifestyle blogger, shares his growing pains as blogger. The Kentucky Gent, a men's fashion and lifestyle blogger, shares his growing pains as blogger. The Kentucky Gent, a men's fashion and lifestyle blogger, shares his growing pains as blogger.

Photos by Chapter-25 Photography

  • And I feel like I’ve jumped in and fallen in love with the content. I think opening your life up to your readers, past just fashion advice, brings people in and creates a loyalty. I love getting bits of your life, seeing Kentucky and some great menswear.

    • Thanks Erin! I really appreciate that. I definitely think I’m headed in the right direction. The content comes a lot more easily, and it feels a lot more “me.”

  • Amanda Mae

    I’m new to reading your blog, but I thoroughly enjoy all the personal bits sprinkled in. I enjoy seeing the human behind the clothes which is something lacking on many other blogs.

    • Couldn’t agree more! I love hearing the story behind other blogger’s days, not the store about what they’re wearing white pants with a blue top.

  • Chioma

    just happened on your blog and i can totally relate to every sentiment you made! I’m making some changes to my voice and approach on my blog too and i’m excited to see where it takes me.

    fellow KY blogger,


    C’s Evolution of Style

  • alice

    I love your style!

    Alice Cerea,


    My San Valentine gift for you.

  • Justin L

    Love these shots in the rain! Really appreciate your sentiments. Keep up the work!

    Walking, Talking Style
    New post: January 2015 Instagram Posts

    • Thanks man, I really appreciate the feedback. It was a cold, cold, wet day, but the photos turned out great.

  • Dana Mannarino

    Love this, love how real this post is! I can totally relate to it as well, sometimes it sucks when you don’t think you get the credit you think you deserve but then on the other hand you need to remember about all your LOYAL followers/readers. For me, they’re the reason why I’m a blogger! And that’s usually enough to keep me going 🙂

    Also, if you’re attending the Perry Ellis show, would love to meet you and chat a bit!

    Pink Champagne Problems

    • Dana, couldn’t agree more. I definitely do it for myself + the handful of loyal readers/followers that make me want to keep doing it.

      I am attending the Perry Ellis show, and I’d definitely love to meet and chat in real life for a bit!

  • Alex

    Hi there,

    I’m Alex, I’ve just started blogging, and I’ve been trolling the internet for the past few days trying to find people that I feel are similar to me and who’s blogs are not just there to engage on one subject. Everyone says you need one subject and you need to stick to it otherwise you won’t gather a following. But I feel exactly the same as you, it is so nice to be able to offload, share stories and talk about anything that your mind wanders to. So what i’m trying to say is well done for being brave and different! And keep it going, the content is brilliant.

  • To me, I actually started following you because you are not just writing a fashion blog. But because of the stories, the ideas, the bit’s&pieces you share. To me that’s what makes this place so awesome!
    xoxo, Ronja

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  • Jen

    I love your little lifestyle bits! Even if it makes me miss living in Louisville more and more!

    xo, Jen

    • Aw, thanks Jen! I always appreciate your kind words + feedback. Next time you visit Louisville let me know!

  • Great post, and you’re dead right! It’s a process, and you have to specialize in your own personal voice. It’s only then that you’ll be doing fantastic work!! xx

    • Amen to that! And thank you, it’s definitely been a work in trail and error.